The Inner Pattern / Relational Foundation
The Pattern Between Us
The Relationship Of Our Egos
Every person has a protective pattern. When two patterns repeatedly meet, the relationship may begin protecting something too. This is a way to name that third pattern with honesty, compassion, and choice.
Relationship Dynamic Matrix
Choose two patterns. Meet what forms between them.
Each meeting point names one relational dynamic through the Hornevian triads. Select a pair to explore the deeper foundation beneath the category.
≋HarmonizingDutiful + Withdrawn✦IgnitingAssertive + Assertive▣Duty-BoundDutiful + Dutiful◌WithdrawnWithdrawn + Withdrawn⇄ActivatingAssertive + Dutiful or Withdrawn
Choose the pattern you bring
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Choose the pattern they bring
1 Reformer · Dutiful2 Helper · Dutiful3 Achiever · Assertive4 Individualist · Withdrawn5 Investigator · Withdrawn6 Loyalist · Dutiful7 Enthusiast · Assertive8 Challenger · Assertive9 Peacemaker · Withdrawn
Choose your next depth
See the pattern. Then choose what support serves the relationship.
The Matrix offers a first shared language. A full report takes the pattern deeper; a discovery call helps you discern whether guided support is the next right step.
Practical applications
RomanticFriendshipsMarriageParentingCoworkersSiblingsLeadership